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Montag, 29. März 2004, 09:20

nah....love has it´s own rules and you never have a choice! For example my Ex.As I met him I was still in a realtionship,ok an unhappy one,but I was.As I met him it hit me like a thunderstorm.I wasn´t able to fight against my feelings.And as it is now,he left me last year,but I´m still not able to choose not to love him anymore.I know that he´s no longer interested in me and he also lives to far away(Gotland).But for me it´s clear that we never ever have a choice if it´s real love.Even if I know very well that there´ll never be the possibility that he´ll come back to me I still carry him inside of me.And I always will...

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Montag, 29. März 2004, 17:09

I also have 2 very wonderful men in my heart, and they will always have a place there.

My last relationship was almost the same. We both said, we don´t want to have a relationship beacause we both did not want another long-distance-relationship. But we met and fell in love. It was wonderful for 2 years. And now? Only memories remained.

There was a time, in which nobody could get so close to my heart and my real feelings, nobody could hurt me. It was quite easy to reach that. And I really felt better then.
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Montag, 29. März 2004, 19:20

When it comes to longdistance relationships.. all i can say is in my signature..

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Montag, 29. März 2004, 19:50

This is true! It was a wonderful relationship and the reason, why we broke up, was NOT the distance. Before this, I had a long-distance-relationship to a wonderful man from Cologne, who today is a very good friend again. I am very happy about that.
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Dienstag, 30. März 2004, 01:12

i am doing the long distance thing with someone from Arizona (about 650 miles)... it's complicated to be sure, but it seems to be working for both of us right now... he is busy, as am i, so being free to pursue our ambitions without having to make time for each other is a good thing at the moment... in a year we will be evaluating our feelings and seeign if we are ready for more (he gets out of shcool then!) until then we enjoy the time we do get more!
Niki
"Together we are what we can't be alone" - Dropkick Murphy's, a punk bank from Boston, Massachusetts, USA
"What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger" - Resilience, a hardcore punk band from Santa Rosa, California, USA
"As our ashes turn to dust, we shine like stars" - Gee, I wonder who said this

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Dienstag, 30. März 2004, 01:15

With my last boyfriend, I had about 400 km. It was okay, for the same reasons. He was very busy and I also had work. So we phoned in the evening and nobody was jealous, if the other still had to work longer.

But there were also weeks, were we could not meet, and that was horrible. I missed him a lot and sometimes I did not see him for 6 weeks. Then we were always kind of strange to each other as we saw us again.
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Dienstag, 30. März 2004, 01:18

oh boy do i understand that whole strange thing... we met... went out twice and then didn't see or talk to each other for 4 months... he lost my number and so i couldn't get a hold of him until he came home at x-mas... then it was another 2 months before i could get out to see him... now we are probably not going to see each other until June...
Niki
"Together we are what we can't be alone" - Dropkick Murphy's, a punk bank from Boston, Massachusetts, USA
"What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger" - Resilience, a hardcore punk band from Santa Rosa, California, USA
"As our ashes turn to dust, we shine like stars" - Gee, I wonder who said this

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Dienstag, 30. März 2004, 01:25

Poor Niki!

My boyfriend from Cologne was my best friend. We wrote letters and have met some years after the first letters. Then we slowly fell in love. It was him first, who told me that it was more than friendship. We tried, but it did not work. I left him, and I broke up contact for some years. Now, we are good friends again and he found a wonderful wife. I am really happy for him. But sometimes, I think about what could it be today. I think, if we had another chance, it would work better. At that time, it could not work better and to leave him was best for both of us. But still, sometimes I think about "what could be...". But he is happy now with his wife and I wohld never interfere.
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Dienstag, 30. März 2004, 01:31

isn't it hard when they find a nice wife??? you always have that little part saying "why couldn't that have been us?" i have several exes who are now married and i am friends with them and also their wives (in some cases our kids even play together).... matt (in Arizona) doen't even have a computer... we can't even e mail each other X( we do talk alot though (thank god for flat rate long distance service!)... it's really weird though... it's like we hardly know each other on some levels, but on others there was just this immediate spark...

he falls asleep every night to the northern light cd so he can think about me 8)
Niki
"Together we are what we can't be alone" - Dropkick Murphy's, a punk bank from Boston, Massachusetts, USA
"What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger" - Resilience, a hardcore punk band from Santa Rosa, California, USA
"As our ashes turn to dust, we shine like stars" - Gee, I wonder who said this

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Dienstag, 30. März 2004, 01:38

Well, yes, it is kind of strange. But having a boyfriend who is still married is worse. Even if you really know that the man loves you. But still the fact that the love for the other woman was so big that he married her (or the reason, the pressure from outside, or just a misunderstandig of "love" at that time...). And if you hear the words "Why couldn´t I have met YOU earlier in my life?", this gives a little pain inside. You feel love, but there is still something which needs to be cleared.

With the guy from Cologne, it was me who left. And at that time, I could not act different. It was best for me, and also for him. And it does not make sense to think about what could have been after 7 years. I hurt him a lot at that time, and I still feel ashamed for this. He forgave me, and I am happy about that. But more than friendship will never be. And this friendship is a treasure for me. But I will always "love" him in some way.
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Mittwoch, 31. März 2004, 14:11

@Pale : I know what you mean.Sometimes I also wish I hadn´t let him come that close to me...but yeah that´s life....and he didn´t even manage to send me a short happy birthday yesterday...and I´m grumpy,cause I´m still so stupid to care........

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Donnerstag, 1. April 2004, 11:53

My lost my last boyfriend because he had a depression. He did not forget my birthday, but thought it was the next day. That hurt me a lot. Although I know that he never wanted to hurt me. And this was also a reason why he left me. He said, he knows that I suffer too and I was close to a depression myself. He did not want to keep me waiting for something he could not promise. He did not know what turns out after all. But he did not want to keep me waiting and in the meantime maybe missing someone who could make me truely happy. I know that he did it for me, so that I am free and not "caged" with a depressive person. I honour this, although it is really hard. I know that he is right and that I would not have been able to cope with staying beside him without getting damage on my soul. I already had...
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Samstag, 3. April 2004, 12:43

Wow,that´s hard.Well the guy I´m talking about broke with me without being able to tell me the reason.He said he doesn´t know what he wants or what he doesn´t want.Well,I told him that I´m willing to wait...even if it takes years...but it seems it shouldn´t be...I just wish the feelings would go away....

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Samstag, 3. April 2004, 12:46

My first boyfriend dated some of my "friends" and I didn´t know. He broke up without being able to tell me a reason too. After half a year, he called me and said, now he could tell me. I told him that I do no longer care now and he should go to hell. Asshole, goddam asshole.
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Dienstag, 6. April 2004, 08:38

guys can be so "wonderful"...... :mauer:

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Dienstag, 6. April 2004, 08:44

Zitat

Original von Michelle
guys can be so "wonderful"...... :mauer:


...but they can be charming and nice, too. :-]

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Dienstag, 6. April 2004, 12:34

Zitat

Original von Panzermensch
...but they can be charming and nice, too. :-]


But most of them are not. Just some nice men give me back my believe in them.

And sometimes I wish, they all were assholes so that you don´t have to find out if he is nice with every new man you meet. :tongue:

It seems to be a kind of joke from mother nature: men who want to date me just want a quick f***. And the nice ones are not nice, because they disappear without a single word.
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Dienstag, 6. April 2004, 22:13

i have a feeling they say roughly the same about us ;)

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Mittwoch, 7. April 2004, 07:05

Zitat

Original von Jenny
i have a feeling they say roughly the same about us ;)


Tataaa. One point goes to Jenny! :D
You're right. But I'm glad there was noone who left without a word yet.

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Mittwoch, 7. April 2004, 08:25

Surely they say the same about us.And of course there´re stupid women too.But fact is,that most guys try to get not involved that emotionally when they have a relationship.The most girls(atleast I do) risk a lot if they truly love someone.So the chance is bigger to get hurt.Some guys just try to stay cold like an iceblock.And even if they have strong feelings for someone they don´t admit it.Or they just tell themselves...oh this is not working...untill they really believe it,even if it WAS working before....I dunno,don´t get it what this game is about.Whatever...you either get it or you don´t...right?

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